Discourse and Rancor in Society! Whose to Blame?
Do we mimic our leaders or do our leaders mimic our own behavior? Why are we surprised by our leaders (political , communal and grass roots) behaviors while we do the same,
if not worse, on Facebook and other social media platforms. Do we not all know individuals (including ourselves) who block, denigrate and publicly ridicule those who don’t agree with us? Of course we do, and we see this everyday. Thus, we shouldn’t be surprised at what happens around us, for we are part of the problem. In essence, we’re to blame.
The Jewish prayer for Peace, prays for all “leaders and advisors” of our nation and not just those we agree with. Additionally, the misheberach (prayer) for the sick, prays for “all those who are in need of healing.” It doesn’t differentiate between people we like or dislike and it definitely doesn’t wish anyone ill. It goes even further, by praying for “physical, emotional and spiritual” healing, thereby expanding the reach of prayer instead of narrowing it. I think, that we all need to take a step back, meditate on these prayers and gain some perspective, for this would definitely help our own personal and national healing at this time.
Biblically speaking, King David serves as a example for us all. For didn’t he pray in Psalm 35: 13-14, “But as for me, when they were sick, my clothing was sackcloth: I humbled my soul with fasting; and my prayer returned into mine own bosom.I behaved myself as though he had been my friend or brother: I bowed down heavily, as one that mourneth for his mother.” In other words, King David’s character is praised by biblical commentators for his praying on behalf of his enemies instead of celebrating their death. Shouldn’t we as people of belief (irrespective of our individual beliefs) follow David’s example instead of mirroring the behaviors we say are so disgraceful? I believe, that as people of faith the answer should be obvious. While we don’t have to agree, we do have to uphold basic standards of decency and acceptance.
In the end, let me ask; Would we let our children behave like this in school or on the playground? Of course not, so why do we complain about one thing and act in that same awful manner?! We shouldn’t! Let us always remember, especially now, that “a soft answers turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” (Proverbs 15:1) It’s time for us to stop acting like children who are throwing a tantrum and take responsibility as adults. For our future depends upon this.